Narcissists

Posted Saturday, March 16, 2024

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Posted Friday, February 23, 2024

“5 Signs of Emotionally Immature Parents”
Not sure that these are manipulative behaviors of narcissists, you can definitely recognize and decide not to play.

1.  Parents who use the silent treatment in order to control Behavior

Posted Thursday, February 22, 2024
CHARACTERISTICS of CHILDREN of NARCISSISTS
Mental health coach, Bev Baker, out of the UK,  does a nice job of profiling 6 common traits of children of narcissistic parents.  They seem common alright, like aspects of many children’s personality.  Does this explain why folks can fall in love with narcissists when we’re of age?  Human relationships can be quite tragic.
1.  Low self-esteem.
2.  The disease to please everybody.
3.  Shutter at confrontation.  They hate conflict.
4.  Inability to stand up for themselves or to speak out.  “Oh, it doesn’t matter.”  “It was nothing.”  If you replace “it” for “I,” “I don’t matter.”  “I was nothing.”
5.  They are prone to anxiety, stress about the future.  And depression, depressed about the past.
6.  Children of narcissist parents always feel that something is missing.  “What’s missing? What’s missing?”  I’ll tell you: a childhood.

Posted Thursday, January 11, 2024

This was posted on Facebook.  I like Joe Navarro.  Two points in the video were helpful.  One, narcissists will do anything to turn you into a victim.  Second, he said that he covers 100 different narcissistic traits in his book.

I have to say that without much reading on the topic, Narcissists are the least offensive of the pathologies.  The main concern is that they can waste your time.  They’re so disaffected by time constraints because their personality is all.  It is life itself.  In fact, without a personality and the pursuit of personal satisfaction of the personality, there is no purpose.

1.  8 Most Common Narcissistic-Sadistic Conversation Control Tactics from Bree Bonchay, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker).  This list could be interesting.
2.  “6 Keys to Dealing with Narcissistic People,” Deborah L. Davis, Psychology Today, December 9, 2022.
3.  “11 Signs You’re the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse,” The bset thing you can expect from reading these articles is self-awareness, your ability to be sharper sorting through charming personalities who are kind and benevolent versus malignant psychopaths.  Get better at reading people so that you don’ waste so much time with people.  If they dominate your life, they can rob you of your love for family–your mom and dad and siblings.  Psychopaths are jealous gods and they will not stand you liking or loving something or someone more than they themselves.
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This is a poor characterization of a narcissist.  He exaggerates.  Does that make the narrator a narcissist?  Could be.

HOW TO BE LESS OF A NARCISSIST
“How to Stop Being a Narcissist: 21 Tips,” Silvi Saxena, MBA, MSW, LSW, CCTP, OSW-C, June 7, 2023.  Here, narcissism gets broken down into several categories.  It is helpful to recognize the different kinds.  Perhaps one of the biggest features of identifying and then judging a person’s behavior is their family dynamics and history.   That history gets animated like a ghost.  You can see it, but you think it’s temporary or merely situational . . . that it until you see patterns of it emerge.  Again, this takes time.  Time is the most valuable thing that any narcissist will take from you.  And they know it.  They will gladly devour your time because they know what is valuable to you.  Family histories are difficult to get at even if they share years of their personal history.  And it’s hard to know which parts of that history are relevant.  But personalities, well, that’s what you’re dealing with in real-time.  It’s also what people have relied on for years to get them through.  When we go through difficult times, we rely on our earliest charms, workarounds, cajoling, shrinking, or challenging for effect to tackle problems in the present.  Don’t dismiss it because it is a reflection of years and it’s a reflection of earliest transactions with the world.  Personality is dynamic and can be hard to pin down, but it is the most valuable piece of information that you can glean from a person.   And be careful following in love with traits; they’re often the opposite of yours or some trait that you’re either missing, you don’t recognize it in your own repertoire, or something that youd wished you had.  Instead, simply read books that help you develop a warm, intelligent, and transactionally fair personality.